Essence of Events, LLC

Families come in all shapes and sizes, and today’s blog post is going to focus on those kinds of families. Couples who have kids and want to involve them in their wedding might have a few questions about how to go about doing that. Sometimes it might be two families coming together; sometimes it might be one parent and their child with someone else coming in; and other times a pregnancy might be in the mix. Whatever your situation, here are a few tips to make your children feel included:

Refer to it as “Our Wedding Day:” Our means the whole family, when everyone came together and promised to be a part of everyone’s lives.

Involve them in the planning: Let the kids come cake tasting with you (I guarantee this will be their favorite part!) and let them pick out their clothes. You might have your own ideas, so with some careful nudging, you can probably steer them in the direction where you want to go. Let them help with catering choices too. If you’re planning on having a super formal reception, at least provide some children’s options, because kids aren’t going to know what to do with caviar, except know to say “ew!”

Give them a job: If they are old enough, a ring bearer, or flower girl would be perfect for your little girl or boy. This makes them feel important.

Make them feel special on the big day: This is not just your day, but theirs, too. This is when the family becomes officially bonded. Let your little man get ready with the guys, and if you have a girl, I’m sure she would be so excited to get her hair done with you ladies. If you have a little gift for them, you could give it to them at the ceremony (jewelry or something sentimental) to let them know they are in your hearts.

Let them invite a special guest: If you aren’t planning on having kids at your wedding, let them invite a few of their friends. This works out well especially if you know they’ll probably invite the children of your friends. It is also important to make the reception kid-friendly by allowing them to pick a few of their favorite songs to play.

For more tips on how to involve your kids on your big day, and other wedding ideas, please contact us. To set up your free, one hour initial consultation with our planners, email us at contact@essenceofevents.com or call 253.292.1482

Written by Samantha Macrae